It was in 2009 that his life changed, the year of his 30th birthday. Agent of photographers and photo producer, she has been going in circles for five years, deploring her lack of prospects for development and her meager professional development. At the end of this long month of questions, one thing has become clear:to live fully, you have to change.
She then decides to use a retraining coach, who tells her this thing, which we sometimes tend to forget:yes, it is possible to discover your passion, even late in life, AND also to live from it.
She therefore left her job with a conventional break and passed a Master's degree in Human Sciences, which she won with Congratulations from the Jury (!). In 2012, here she is, now a successful retraining guide:in addition to her many clients, her blog, Draw me a career, has been a great success.
Message on the wall by Draw me a career / Retraining for women.
This is via a blogger whom I had the pleasure of discovering her fascinating site, full of advice and useful lessons. So I ask him for an appointment by Skype. Here are his teachings:
Marjorie Llombart:Initially, I was in charge of helping men and women, even if the latter were more numerous. But I quickly realized that women had ultra-specific issues.
For example, women will find it more difficult to express their professional desires. It is therefore essential for me to help them reconnect with themselves in order to identify with them what they really want, what makes them vibrate, outside of any imposed pattern.
Another very clear difference:in their retraining, women always want to find a job that makes sense to them. That's what excites me:helping women reveal what they really have inside.
Already, there is a difference between making an observation - telling yourself that something about us is more satisfying - and being ready to change. Several signs can help us know that it may be time to act. The first sign is daily boredom, with fewer and fewer times during the day when we are happy with what we have done.
Then, it can be general fatigue, to the point of having a lump in your stomach on Sunday evening and Monday morning. There may also be a problem with the hierarchy or colleagues, no longer finding support in one's daily environment, and finally having a loss of meaning by thinking:"But what's the point, all I do? .
So if you have several of these points, there may be some changes to make...
Not necessarily, there may be some simple adjustments to make. Sometimes it's just the environment that doesn't suit us! Some people, who work in large companies, can for example flourish much more by doing the same job… but in a small structure. And acting on it allows you to regain your well-being.
Others, on the contrary, will need big changes, like going on a world tour or taking a gap year. It can help them...but you have to be careful that it's not a leak, which will bring us back to the same place.
The best thing is to be accompanied by a coach who will help you know what you are not seeing. Going all this way alone is very difficult. Nevertheless, we can ask ourselves some questions:What do I like to do in life? What are my interests? When I'm not working, what are my hobbies, what do I like to do? What do I like to do every day?
These are not necessarily professional activities. It can be:"Me, when I go away with my friends, I organize the holidays really well!" So, I have this talent as an organizer, which I do not yet apply in my work but which can be useful to me. »
Already, from there, we see big clues. And then, it is necessary to take stock of skills and see, at the level of the profession this time, what our skills are, and to bring together all these clues to draw the right conclusions.
Yes, because the previous generational model, according to which women do not necessarily have to work or earn money, is still very entrenched. And this model is starting to move.
But even today, even if we have a lot of diplomas and very good jobs, there will always be people around us who will say to us when we dare:"But you're crazy! Why do you want to change? Already, you have a job, while it is the crisis. So what are you telling us?! ". But these people, deep down, are just projecting their own fears onto us!
This is why it is difficult to make this change alone. In saying this, I am not just defending my work! This conviction, I acquired it by experimenting this reconversion. Because myself, to change, I had to do a lot of work with a coach, to distinguish between what was fantasy and reality, and to help me deconstruct certain thought patterns that we have all. Besides, I continue to be coached!
> Learn more about "imposed patterns" with Marjorie Llombart's article
Sure ! This is real work, an inner journey that takes several months! For example, I refuse to take on clients for less than 3 months because I know that there won't really be any results. Finding your way by working on your beliefs and patterns takes time, especially if there is a need for training or funding. You have to accept it...and it's worth it!
In addition, you should know that coaching is not giving the answers! I show my clients what to think about, I motivate them and confront them with reality. Our job as guidance experts is to help them give birth to their ideas. I know exactly what steps the person has to go through so that she can find it on her own. The idea is to make this person autonomous.
For example, to a woman who wants to become a naturopath, I will say to her "ok, great, apparently this really corresponds to your interests and your values. But do you really know what this job is? Well the best thing to do is that you go and interview 3 naturopaths with questions that we will develop together. »
By being thus confronted with reality, via experience, you will know what you really want to do. It becomes more real and it is the first (big) step towards the future activity!
Obviously ! With my clients, it's a bit of a roller coaster. At first there is a moment of excitement mixed with a bit of apprehension (“Am I going to make it”), then a difficult moment and intense doubts (“I suck! I'm never going to to arrive! "). So there, perseverance, perseverance, action, action! Until the moment of intense joy and pride, which comes right after, when we tell ourselves that we have arrived where we wanted to be! And that's great.
So if you have this moment of discouragement, tell yourself that not only is it normal - everyone has it - but it is also very healthy, because it shows that you are really in touch with reality. This is - basically - a very good signal! And then, all the difficulties we have there are minimal compared to the happiness that follows.
Being in your rightful place and doing what is natural for us brings us joy and gives us all the strength to move forward, whatever the project.
That's what I'm here for:to help women show them that they can allow themselves to develop fully. Often, we know deep down what is right for us. And even if it does not quite correspond to the standard or the codes in force, it is often by following this path, made for us, that we will succeed.
To learn more about Marjorie Llombart's method, her journey, and perhaps benefit from a free appointment with her and other women who want to change their lives, visit her site:http://dessinemoiunecarriere. com
You can also follow her on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/entrepreneureusesheures?fref=ts; or/and on his Twitter account:https://twitter.com/mjellombart
